Alright ladies, let’s talk about BODY POSITIVITY.
For those of you who don’t know me, I have always been a skinny girl with very little curves and this runs in my family. Or as they call us in the fitness world; an ectomorph.
For almost my entire life until the past year or two, I’ve been told to “go eat a burger” or “you need to put some meat on your bones” or regularly asked if I’m anorexic or even close friends stating they are “worried” about me and asking me if I’m eating enough/ telling me how I’ve “shrunk down”. After many years of hearing this, I started to believe it. I would constantly hide my body and would be afraid to be in a bathing suit around people as I was worried that my “skin and bones” would offend them.
People have often said to me, “well not being able to gain weight is a way easier problem to have rather than not being able to lose weight.” And what I have to say to that is, it doesn’t matter whose problems are “easier”. The fact is that we all have our own story and experiences, and we shouldn’t be diminished for it because the struggles are different from yours. I’m not saying ONLY my struggles matter while somehow shooting down anyone else’s by sharing, nor am I comparing my struggles with anyone else’s. Everyone’s struggles matter and are important to voice, this is just one of mine.
Because of these experiences, I became OBSESSED with health and fitness at an early age and got my fitness instructor and nutrition certifications. I tried every fad diet and fitness method out there so I could change the shape of my body to appease others. I counted calories and tried to eat perfect macros each day so I could fit the mold. And guess what? I got the ass and curves I always wanted. But it wasn’t for me at all.
I started a health and fitness business with a friend back in 2014; developing workout plans and meal plans for others so I could share the knowledge I had gained to help others. But the mistake I made there was NOT telling my story and not being vulnerable about how I got there. So, there ya have it.
I love and appreciate my body. I work my ass off at the gym, lift heavy, and eat a healthy balanced diet because that’s what makes me happy. It isn’t for anyone else but the person in front of my mirror every single day. I love her and accept her for who she is. That doesn’t mean that I feel this way all the time because I’m human, but I am committed to being kind to myself. MINDSET is so incredibly important when it comes to mental and physical health.
So ladies, before you beat yourself up because you aren’t “curvy enough”, or are “too curvy”, or have put some weight on because of COVID or missed a workout, or can’t get that six pack that people probably edit on social media anyway, please remember to be kind to yourself. You are human and this is all apart of the human experience. We are alive to make memories and live life to the fullest, not flaunt our six packs or “cellulite free” asses and legs all over social media. And most importantly, choose YOU and your happiness every single day, you deserve it. You are ALL wonderful and beautiful and I stand for you to love yourself from the inside out.
AND to my skinny girls who have been constantly told they’re anorexic and to eat more:
- I see you
- I understand you
- I’m here for you
- I love you